Sorry this might be a bit rambly and long.
I live OS and went back home for a couple of weeks over Xmas. Mum was in a treatment centre for alcoholism for 10 days in October, and she had been dry since then - but she did start again while I was there, drinking a couple of glasses of wine at two social events (I didn't say anything at the time).
I talked to her on the phone last night and asked her straight out if she was drinking again, and she said yes. I gave her my opinion as non-confrontationally as possible, which was that it's much too early for her to be drinking again and that she really needs to get counselling (she had to cancel her first post-treatment counselling appt and hasn't yet re-scheduled). She responded that her and Dad have had an extremely stressful month (which is true) and that she didn't want to have to deal with it, but that her and Dad talked last night and she is going to get things back on track at the start of Feb.
I think these are the main issues:
-She still doesn't see her drinking as a real problem, as many of her friends/relatives drink more heavily.
-She is cynical/sceptical about counselling
-She has a bit of a martyr attitude, but also seems to not be facing up to the issues she needs to deal with.
I am just wondering what else I can/should do? Can I give an ultimatum, like 'I'm not speaking to you until you get counselling' kind of thing? That just seems harsh to me...
My sister is also worried but is much more angry/frustrated about the whole thing, and I worry that we are interfering/pressuring my Mum too much. Mum does seem to get more upset when my sister talks to her about this stuff than when i do...