i just wanted to f/u to some of my earlier posts. i'm the girl who's DH just isn't happy but doesn't know why, we're going to counseling (3 sessions so far), and he had proposed the idea of sleeping in separate rooms as a way to help the situation.
thank god the separate sleeping arrangements thing hasn't come up again. i think he knows how strongly i feel that it would hurt us further. things have sort of start to feel like gettng back to normal. and when i say normal i mean the way it was before he told me he was unhappy. so normal isn't really the end goal. the goal is for us to be better than normal, happier and more in love! but its better than it was a few weeks ago. i have been trying to give him space. doing more things on my own, being more independent, not being a nagging wife. i don't think i've ever been a nag, but what i'm saying is that i'm making a better effort just to avoid anything that will come across that way. it's been hard b/c i try to plan for things like New Years Eve even. and he just is like ... whatever.
i hope that he starts to become a little more enthusiastic about things soon. and trying harder. over a week ago we talked about doing fun dates and he hasn't planned for anything. i think i'm going to suggest the first one to get that ball rolling.
our next counseling session is 1/5. i wasn't happy with the therapist after the last one. if she doesn't change her tune then i'm going to suggest we find a new therapist. basically, she's making it all about my DH's needs and knows that i'm just suffering along with zero say in the matter. i don't think thats what marriage is all about. we shall see.