Has anyone read the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" yet? I heard about it on the radio and I am considering reading it (not buying it, but checking it out from the library). A good friend of mine has been married 4 years and she told me over Christmas that they're talking divorce because they fight every day. I asked her what they were fighting about and she said, "the cleaning of the house." They have 2 children (3 years and 15 months). He works outside the home and she is a stay-at-home-mom. I am considering what I can say to her, but I don't want to offend. What I'd like to say is, "just hire a cleaning crew to come once a week." Also I'd like to say, "if it's really important to your husband, you have to do it." She was a BM in my wedding and we've been best friends since 7th grade. I don't want to take "his side" but I do think there's some middle ground. I also considered just buying the book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and sending it to her, but I want to preview it first. What do you guys think?