So my SIL's 16th birthday is on Wed. and I am no longer speaking to my IL's. I feel so bad that I won't be able to be at her sweet 16 because of something that has nothing to do with her. I told DH I would stop by to say happy birthday to her and then I would be going to my parents house ( who live 10 min away ).
I've even thought about going simply because its her, but I can't put myself in a situation where everyone in the room is going to be trying to talk to me about the problems that happened. I don't want to talk about any of it, I just want them to leave me alone..seriously. DH supports me 100% and hasn't pressured me at all about it, thank goodness because I think I would punch him in the face if he did.
I'm trying to buy her something really special and I think I've thought of it...a white gold cross pendant ( they're on sale at Kay's but they don't need to know that lol )
I've tried explaining to her why I can't be there, but she just keeps saying she doesn't understand. I don't really know what else to tell her besides that I won't be there. I didn't want to say too much about what happened because I don't want to put her in that situation where she loses respect for her parents so maybe thats why she doesn't understand why I'm so hurt by all of it.