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embarassing question- don't flame me pleaseee!
Hi,
I am a virgin. I am thinking my first time will be soon... so I am wondering something. When I fool around with my boyfriend he can put two fingers up.... no more. So I am wondering would that be considered really tight, like will it hurt/bleed to actually have sex for the first time? He doesn't even know I'm a virgin. Arghhh! Help me. I'm very nervous.
Thanks,
Kate
Re: embarassing question- don't flame me pleaseee!
Honestly..it will hurt and everyone is different on bleeding, (I didn't but I am also a dancer and horseback rider so I have heard that straddling the saddle could have loosened me up..). I think you need to tell your boyfriend that you are a virgin..he needs to know that for the first times you need to go slow and be loved, not thrust into like it's no big thing. It's ok to be nervous..don't worry.
That's where I was at before my first time. I did bleed and it did hurt pretty bad, to be brutally honest. Just have him take it slow.
From my experience I can tell you that it will hurt and you will probably bleed (I bleed a lot but everyone is different) The only thing I can tell you is loss LOTS of lube and have him go slowly.
I agree with a previous post. Why haven't you told your boyfriend you're a virgin? If you're considering losing your virginity to this guy, you should be 100% honest with him.
My first time hurt, and I did bleed (I am very small), but it stops. I would say it hurts for everyone to SOME degree. I agree with the other posts. He should be patient and go slow. You should relax and try not to be nervous. If you're overly nervous, it will make things more difficult.
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you need to tell him that?you are a virgin. ?Honesty is a very important part of any relationship.
My?first time didn't hurt nor did I bleed. ?Everyone's experience is different. ?For us, we had fooled around ALOT so I was pretty ready to go when we actually did do it. ?I do remember saying to myself "this is it?" haha. ?It does get better but it takes a lot of practice.
I agree... The first time I thought This is it?! The first time isn't very exciting because you are so worried. Just try to relax and let him know that you are a virgin.
how old are you exactly? You have prior posts about different degrees of love and how to get computers donated to your classroom....I am hoping you're a teacher and not a student...
If you can't tell him your a virgin then why are you having sex anyway? that makes no sense. make it count with someone you truly love.
Can I just throw my two cents in here and recommend that you wait? Your first time needs to be with someone extra special--in other words, someone who knows you've never done it, and someone who respects that. If you haven't told him, that just doesn't bode well as far as trust issues go (there should be absolutely NO reason for you to be embarrassed about being a virgin). And believe me, as much as you might want to be able to say you're not a virgin anymore, in a few years if this guy wasn't special you definitely will regret it.
Even though I didn't do it myself, I'm an advocate for saving yourself for marriage. In hindsight, I really wish I had done that. I made some big mistakes with some even bigger losers before I finally met my husband.
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I would have to agree with some previous posters - if this guy doesn't already know you are a virgin, you should not be considering having sex with him. He may be the one you want to lose your virginity to, but it'll be even more special if you are open & honest with him for awhile & allow yourselves to grow closer before you do it.
As far as first times go, I did not bleed & it also didn't hurt. If you're used to using tampons, you may not bleed or feel pain. That's no guarantee though. If/when you do decide it's time to do it, make sure you feel secure & loved. Do not rush this. You don't get a do-over.
For the record... I also thought "What? That was it?!" afterwards. It does get better. Like anything, it takes practice.
Ditto 5,000 times.
If you don't know this guy well enough to tell him that you're a virgin, I don't know why you'd want to lose your virginity to him. Are you desperate?
I too question how old you are and if your are engaged/married or have a baby on the way?
How old are you, occupation, education etc? There is much we are guessing here.
I agree with sugarmag13 etc and babycakes.
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