My DH has always been ?ber close with his family - they have their arguments but anyone outside the family has to be careful about what they say, that sort of thing. No big deal, except he sometimes gets touchy about my perceived dislike of his family. I like my MIL,FIL and BIL just fine - but my SILs are just not my favorite people in the world...
The older one has had numerous failed relationships and has always looked to DH to solve her problems. She and her two sons moved back in with my in-laws last year due to eviction. We were not close before that but since then, most of the things I say are met with eye rolling or overreaction or simply ignored.
The younger one is eight years younger than I, and was living in her parents house when DH and I started dating, moved out with her boyfriend, then also moved back in last summer, with boyfriend in tow. We are nice enough in person to each other but do not have much in common.
Last night over coffee it came up in conversation with one of DH's good friends about how I liked my new in-laws. She went on to relate that at our reception (where SIL#1 was immature, rude, and refusing to smile for pictures or be at all pleasant because she had not confirmed with her date and he was unable to attend) that both SILs were outside having a bitchfest about how I had turned down the first two outfit choices for SIL#2 (which everyone went out of their way to ask me about and demanded my opinions and approval), and generally trash me and complain, which is something both of them do well and often. Previously mentioned friend called them out, reminding them they were here for their brother and his happy start to life and since they had asked, I was allowed to veto options, and they should go inside and smile and be happy for their brother if for no other reason.
I know we had never been close, but I was rather surprised to hear they felt this poorly about me.
And in a really boneheaded move, I said something to DH this morning before work (and coffee) because we will not see each other for a couple days (opposite work schedules). He was less than impressed, both with the revelation and my timing, but seemed pretty normal on his way out the door with more than our usual amount of affection. In arguments he often criticizes my so-called "need to always be right" (which always seems to be mentioned when I'm wrong) - but I feel in this case it's a need to not be the only one blamed.
I guess I'm not really sure what I'm asking here - do I bring it up with him again? Call my SILs out and figure out what the problem is? Just keep smiling and hope they get over whatever the issue is? Buy a dartboard and start wearing it as a cape?