My dad is 72 and is severely overweight - I imagine he weighs close to 300 lbs now. He wasn't overweight as a child, but he's been overweight for as long as I can remember. There were a couple times when I was growing up that he started to lose weight, but then he would just gain it right back. And there was another time, a few years ago, when he seemed like he might actually be serious about losing weight. He was saying it was his "last chance" to get in shape - he's overly dramatic and exaggerates sometimes because late 60's isn't that old. He had an stair-master in his room and used it regularly for a while, and actually did start to lose weight.
Yet, once again, he didn't stick to it. I don't know specifically what precipitated it this time. My mom has said that she's just stopped worrying about it, because if she did, she'd worry herself to death. I agree whole-heartedly that she shouldn't let it stress her out, but sometimes I feel that there are some things she inadvertently does to contribute to his weight problem. For instance, for a long time, whenever we'd go out to eat, she'd tell him to finish what was left on her plate she couldn't eat. I've pointed that out to her several times and hope (knock-on-wood) I've pretty much gotten her broken of the habit. I'm wondering, though, if she should even be cooking for him on nights they don't go out. He doesn't need to be eating fried chicken, etc..In fact, I imagine the only way he'll lose any significant amount of weight is by drastically reducing his food-intake, particularly given his lack of exercise. In fact, if he did start exercising, I wouldn't want him to try to do a whole lot, at least right at first. I have a feeling that might be dangerous.
Should I talk to either my mom or dad, or both (or neither) about the cooking issue. I guess it wouldn't be fair to ask her to stop cooking for him - I mean, it'd be kinda hard for her to cook for herself and just say to him "sorry, you don't get any." Yet at the same time, I'm worried about him having a stroke or heart-attack, or simply falling. He's had some balance-control anyway, but the weight makes it especialy difficult.
Any suggestions on how I might be able to handle this? I'm grown now, but am living with them temporarily due to my financial situation, which I guess puts me in a tough spot. I'm not sure if I should criticize them in any way while they're helping me out. I mean, they wouldn't throw me out or anything, but I'd still feel uncomfortable.