So recently I was told that I was not fulfilling my family obligations. The background on this story: I got engaged to my husband 3 years ago, it was kind of a whirlwind romance since we had known each other since high school and had been friends for years. I had just come out of a relationship so I was keeping my new beau(and now husband) private since we are from the same, VERY small, hometown. So when I told my mom we were together and after dating a bit that I was going to move in with him, she told me I shouldn't and that I should go nanny for my brother- which is not even close to my career field! So I obviously said no... as selfish as that might sound.
Fast forward to the day we got engaged. My husband literally couldn't wait to ask me, so he had jumped the gun and didn't get the chance to get the go ahead from my parents. So he asked, I said yes, and he had gone to them and said that he would love their blessing and my dad shook his hand and said yes. The next morning my mother called and asked if just I wanted to come over for coffee. Thinking it could be something private I want and my H stayed with his family. It was so she could confront me about if I had been brainwashed by my H and In-laws and agreed to marry him, and wasnt actually in love. After a fight that lasted months, we finally got past it. So needless to say the wedding planning was a LONG process.
Now to the present. A month ago my family all got together to celebrate my brothers retirement, and the upcoming birthdays. I couldn't attend because we just moved a couple months before and I had only been at my job about a month and a half and my husband is in the Navy and we need to hold onto his leave. So of course that caused scrutiny! On top of that, my In laws have a family run ranch and after discussing it in depth we have decided to step up and take over. When this was brought up to my mom- her monster side has come out and once again I have been "brainwashed" and I'm not the girl she raised!
Does anyone else have problems with their mothers?! She seems jealous of my life and marriage, of my in laws, and of the opportunities that we will have from his parents being successful and wealthy. I guess I just need to know that other people have problems with this too and what you have done to curb it!! HELP!