How would you react to members of the family who feel like you should have a do-over wedding at somewhere nice (a church followed by a hall reception instead of a civil ceremony at a farm like the one we had)?
I've thought of ways I could have made the day better, but my husband and I are pretty happy with how the wedding went, minus the part where we got affected by the hurricane. We were also planning the wedding long distance so that we could have it where we grew up as opposed to where we were living. So I don't feel really sorry that I had my wedding on a farm. Sorry you don't like animals and that our religious beliefs were in flux so we didn't get married in a church and that a big hurricane happened that made our caterer cancel thus making the food go from great to ok and that lots of people had to cancel. Sorry that neither our best man nor MOH made a speech, and I wasn't going to force them...
Since then we have found a church that we think we really like, but I've stated that if and when we decide to renew vows/get married in a church there's pretty much no way we're doing a reception all over again. I mean come on... I'd be okay with celebrating at a restaurant afterwards but what the heck is the point of having a wedding celebration all over again with the first dance and the cake cutting and the whole 9 yards. Sure, maybe I would have liked a wedding a teeny bit fancier with a bigger budget but really, a wedding reception is just a glorified party. Our friends said they loved it because it was boring, while the older people thought it was too untraditional and not formal enough.
The funny thing is that I got a lot of my inspiration from Offbeat Bride, but I feel like my wedding was Offbeat Lite. Just wish someone in our family could have a true offbeat wedding so I could enjoy it without being judged :P