So I have been married for four years and have had the same issues the entire time. My husband refuses to get a better job. When we met in 2006 I was a student in college and working full time as well. In 2008 I graduated and in 2009 we had our first son. We bought our first home the same year our son was born from his parents and it was a disaster. It needed new plumbing, new walls, new wiring, had no heat, and was awful. My husband refused to fix it so our son was safe, so I left in 2010. In January of 2011 I agreed to try again even though I had filed for divorce because my husband swore he would get a better job that could support our family and he sold that house back to his parents. In 2012 we had our second son and bought another home. This house is in the same shape and was also owned by his family. He still works 2-3 days per week, making minimum wage and won't listen to me that he needs to be working where he has a full time schedule and somewhere that offers benefits. He also refuses to fix this house and I'm worried about our boys. I don't want to leave again and cause my two sons mental distress but I can't get him to see that I shouldn't be working 55-60 hours a week while he works 20. Am I wrong to want him to find a better job? I don't know what to do. He tells me all the time that I just don't understand and he shouldn't have to work harder. I work to care for my sons, one of which has a medical condition and has to have insurance, and to pay his $400 a month car payment. I'm sick of it and don't know what else to do but leave. Any suggestions?