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We just got married!!

We got married about two weeks ago while he was on leave so we didn't really have time to be together for as long as we would have liked. Right now he is back at his duty station overseas and it's just really hard for us to adjust to being married and being apart. Well more along the lines of we want to be together but we can't and so we're both just out of it and want to know how to overcome this. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated, we're just new to marriage and being married and apart is somehow harder than when we were dating and apart. :(

Re: We just got married!!

  • I completely understand how you feel.  It is very hard to adjust to married life when you are half a world apart.  There are things you can do to build that marriage relationship.  Video chats are great.  Being open and honest with each other is a must.  Do things together.  I know that sounds odd since you aren't together but trust me.  Read the same books.  Watch the same movies or tv shows.  If you share the same faith, read the same devotional books and pray together.  Doing things like that together gives you more to talk about and discuss than just the every day.  

    Talk about your feelings, your fears and your dreams.  Successful marriages are intimate relationships.  I don't just mean sex.  Intimate relationships involved knowing everything there is to know about each other.  

    When you finally get to live together, you may benefit greatly from reaching out to a counselor.  The first year is the hardest for most people to adjust to.  When you've been married for a while and then live together, it's like taking a giant leap backwards.  It's best to be proactive than reactive when it comes to your marriage.   


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  • Great advice....I am in the same boat and his leave is coming to an end. We plan to skype as much as possible, play online games and I am sending special care packages. I am also going to get a part-time job to eat up my time and save for a vacation when he returns. We both take online classes so that will help keep us busy as well. This is the time to be open and raw with your emotions and thoughts. It made us closer when he was away when we were dating and I can honestly say I married my best friend. have great groups to join that will keep you busy.
  • Im going through the same thing. He was home for a week and we eloped the day before he left to go to his duty station in Germany. I am currently working on getting my ID card and my passport so I can move over there to be with him. In the meantime, we Skype almost everyday and my job keeps me busy. We feel married and have no problems adjusting, we just wish we were together all the time.
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