babies? sooner or later? my husband recently did an "about face"? and I cannot figure out why.
We have been together for 2 years, married for 2 months. He's new in the country and thus starting over, so I'm the main breadwinner. For the record, he does have a FT job and is looking for a better-paying position, but right now I make significantly more money. The thing is, while I'm making more now, due to situations beyond my control, my job is NOT something I can count on in the longrun. Its a long story that I'd rather not get into but I'm not comfortable making any further major life changes, including, but not limited to: no new car even tho I need it, no vacations, no new house, nothing? especially NOT a baby.
Up until a month ago, I thought we were on the same page? I could care less about having a kid and have been upfront and honest about that. He seemed relieved and happy with my perspective. However recently he's been changing his tune about "giving me a child" and it's freaking me out.
I should note that we have a sizable age gap? he's 30 and I'm 37.
Not sure if someone "got to him" or got in his head? "She's nearing 40? end of the baby-making-ability stage? better get a move on!!"
I don't know. I feel like someone planted the idea in his head and am trying to figure out who so I can tell them to butt out. However he's not forthcoming with where or how his attitude change came about.
What the heck? Anyone else go through this too? How do you deal with it? I have enough to think about without dealing with his sudden desire to have babies.
I AM on the pill though? thank God. So, I'm not worried about getting pregnant, I just don't want to hear it anymore.