My husband and I have been married for 3 and a half years. The entire length of our marriage, my husband has struggled finding work. He was a teacher when we met, but due to us living 2 hours apart, he gave up his teaching job to come to where I lived. I, obviously, was able to keep my job. After that, he couldn't find a teaching job here, so he was a substitute teacher and then a lifeguard during the summer months. Last May, he got a full time job at an IT help desk. We were really excited because it was full time and was a salary position! Well, his boss is not helpful at all. They have a program they use to instruct people on how to fix their problems. He has tried asking his boss about how to use it and asking questions when he gets to a difficult task. She gets mad and either huffs at him or tells him to figure it out.
He is feeling like a failure and that nothing works out for him. I am trying to be supportive and tell him that I will help him find something else, will help out if he wants to take classes, etc, but he doesn't want to do any of it. The job market stinks here and I have no idea what to do to help him feel supported yet get him motivated enough to either stay at the current job or look for a new job. As of right now, he doesn't want to do either!