I need some input.
When H and I got married we invited one of his friends from out of town. She didn't RSVP by the RSVP date, so we had to call her (I'm only including this deail to show that she may not be the type to be right on top of things). She said she couldn't make it. About a week after our wedding we got a card in the mail from her that contained a pretty generous amount of money. We promptly wrote her a Thank You card.
Several months later this same friend got married. H and I were unable to attend but a few weeks before her wedding we sent her a card containing a Macy's gift card since she and her H were registered there. Right before her wedding, I visited her wedding website and noticed that it said that all gifts should be sent to her H's work. I had sent the card to her apartment. I figured it was no big deal because it was sent in a normal sized envelope that could easily fit in her apartment mailbox.
My issue now is that her wedding was 2 1/2 months ago and we have yet to receive a "Thank You" card from her. Here's my dilemma: If we contact her to ask her if she received the gift, I feel like that is basically calling her out for not sending us a thank you card. But I want to make sure that the gift didn't get lost. And even though I know she didn't give us a generous gift in order to get something back in return, but I don't want her to think that I just didn't send her anything after she went overboard on us. What would you do?