Every time we go see my husband?s family, I feel like I am in a sticky situation. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend are heavy into pot. Also, my mother-in-law has started smoking it again. They will smoke it with my husband and me in the house with no qualms. I do leave the room, and if it isn?t winter, I will go outside and away from them when it is happening.
I am a teacher in a public school and if I am every ?caught? around it, it would ruin my career. My brother-in-law is on probation right now, so by the letter of the law, his probation officer has the right to visit him anywhere and everywhere. In my state, the mere fact that I am in the same household as them when they smoke is enough to arrest me and could cause me to lose my job. The smell also sticks to whatever I am wearing and when I go to school on Monday, I worry that the kids can smell it on my jacket (I often wear a different jacket out to visit his family, but smells can transfer).
I have told my husband how uncomfortable it makes me, but he feels like he can?t do anything more. He has said stuff to them, but it still happens. I have considered telling him I can?t jeopardize my career, and will not make the trip out to visit his family (they live a few hours away), but then I feel like I am hurting my husband.