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edited August 2014 in Family Matters

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  • Sorry, I don't have a SIL, so no stories.

    Do you have an evil SIL? 

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  • My SIL is super nice, so no stories. Makes bad choices in men, but a really nice person.
  • Sorry, no evil stories here. My husband has 2 sisters, one is in middle of divorce and can be a little snarky right now. The other is 28, single and very shy and sweet, love her.

  • No SIL. Both my H and I are only children.

  • DH is an only child and I have all sisters so no SIL stories here.
  • Ok, I'll bite. I made one of mine cry, not because I did anything but because she is insane. We were all talking having a good time and then she went off on this tangent when we were alone. I tried to be nice and get her to stop, but she didn't. So I told her stupidity was not an excuse for what she was rambling about. Now we were not talking about her choices or anyone specifically, but she got mad. Later she cornered me and started crying saying that I hurt her b/c I called her other sister stupid. What?!?! Where not talking about said sister, nor is she in any way involved in SIL's original topic. That was awkward.

    I did feel better when I found out she had a huge blow up with her younger sister b/c her little sister called her a SAHM vs an artist. Bearing in mind she is a mommy matryer that gushes about how she is able to SAH. I guess she was comparing herself to someone's husband who is a legitimate painter/sculptor, meanwhile no one has ever bought one of her pieces nor has she worked on it for a while. 

    At the end of the week Dh realized just how nuts she is and that I am so over her. This is the same sister that 3 days after our son with stillborn made horrific comments to us. Basically how we were at fault for the doctors we choose, etc. Needless to say we didn't talk for some time after that.  

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  • My SIL is now my xSIL (she divorced BIL)

    but she was the queen of "under-handed comments"...so comments right at that threshold that if you reacted, it would seem like an overreaction....but when you didn't it ate away at you.

    She was a total PIA at my wedding, refusing to let her children walk down the aisle by themselves. She scooped up a calm 3 year old and screamed "she can't do it, can't you see she can't do it" when I asked my sister to have her have the 2 girls hold hands and get ready to walk down the aisle. She then told me the next day "your sister was such a bich and completely ruined the day for me". Also, throughout the reception people kept asking me "are you okay", "I heard you had a rough morning" and "are you feeling any calmer"...I was baffled until MY AUNT (read: not related to her at all) told me that she was telling everyone that I was bridezilla and completely out of control. Even if that were true, you can't run around a bride's reception telling her guests that...wrong, just wrong.

  • l+charles12l+charles12 member
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    edited August 2014
  • H grew up an only child and his half-sisters are still in highschool....no complaints here.
  • My SIL is actually pretty cool...personally I think she yes's my MIL & FIL to death a little too much, which I feel might bite her in the a$$ later, but in the end, she has her relationship with them and I have mine. Other than that though, she's nice and I like her.
  • My SIL is H's brothers wife, so not his actual sister. She is amazing, we all live next door to each other and we keep one another sane in regards to MIL who lives a few minutes away. 
  • I have an evil SIL, so I will bite. My brother married her 2 years ago, they have been together almost 4 years, and it has been 4 years of hell for my family. When I deployed 4 years ago, my brother and his then girlfriend (SIL) moved into my house to help DH, plus they needed a place to live for a little while. All DH asked of them was to watch DD while he went to work. We covered all of their bills, and living expenses while they lived with us. One day DH came home from work, saw that DD had a pretty big bruise by her eye, asked SIL about it, she threw the laptop at him, hit him in the face, and stormed out. Her and my brother moved out of the house the next day.

    Fast forward a few days after they moved out of my house, they moved into my moms house. SIL asks my mom to watch her son while she goes to work, and she agree's. SIL and my mom start disagreeing on alot of things, SIL then starts calling my mother names, gets in knock down drag out fights with my brother (physical abuse), my mom throws them out of her house. So begins SILs hatred toward my parents.

    My brothers stupid a$$ marries her on 17 July 2010. The next day she finds out she is pregnant. She tells him that same day. A few days later she tells him that she is moving back to Texas, with or without him, and her son, and new baby are going with her. She wanted a divorce if he didn't move away from his family. They where gone within 4 months. The day before the new baby was born, we flew in to help her get things done, spend time with my nephew, and see the new baby. She refused to let us see the kids wouldn't let us come to the house, and wouldn't even let us be at the hospital. My brother had to sneak the baby, and my nephew out of the house so his family could see them before we left.

    This is also the same girl who swears up and down that no one in my brothers family has ever done anything to help them. DH and I loaned them the money to put down a deposit for the venue for their wedding, they lived in my rent/bill free for 5 months, they lived at my mothers house rent free for 1 year, my mother watched her son 5 days a week for free, and no one has done anything to help them!

    This b!tch has told my brother that if he talks to us, she will leave. He has to sneak around to call his family, and he texts us pictures of the kids when she is not around.

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  • I definitely don't have an evil sil but all my in-laws talk behind my other SIL's back, so I know they definitely do about me. All harmless opinions though.

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  • Wow!  This girl is not only evil, she's totally nuts!  One day, your brother's going to wise up and leave her.  When she doesn't have your family to pick on anymore, she'll turn on him and the kids.  Then he'll see that crazy doesn't just stop when unreasonable demands are met, she'll just get crazier. 
  • l+charles12l+charles12 member
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    edited August 2014
  • image lildevil968:

    I have an evil SIL, so I will bite. My brother married her 2 years ago, they have been together almost 4 years, and it has been 4 years of hell for my family. When I deployed 4 years ago, my brother and his then girlfriend (SIL) moved into my house to help DH, plus they needed a place to live for a little while. All DH asked of them was to watch DD while he went to work. We covered all of their bills, and living expenses while they lived with us. One day DH came home from work, saw that DD had a pretty big bruise by her eye, asked SIL about it, she threw the laptop at him, hit him in the face, and stormed out. Her and my brother moved out of the house the next day.

    Fast forward a few days after they moved out of my house, they moved into my moms house. SIL asks my mom to watch her son while she goes to work, and she agree's. SIL and my mom start disagreeing on alot of things, SIL then starts calling my mother names, gets in knock down drag out fights with my brother (physical abuse), my mom throws them out of her house. So begins SILs hatred toward my parents.

    My brothers stupid a$$ marries her on 17 July 2010. The next day she finds out she is pregnant. She tells him that same day. A few days later she tells him that she is moving back to Texas, with or without him, and her son, and new baby are going with her. She wanted a divorce if he didn't move away from his family. They where gone within 4 months. The day before the new baby was born, we flew in to help her get things done, spend time with my nephew, and see the new baby. She refused to let us see the kids wouldn't let us come to the house, and wouldn't even let us be at the hospital. My brother had to sneak the baby, and my nephew out of the house so his family could see them before we left.

    This is also the same girl who swears up and down that no one in my brothers family has ever done anything to help them. DH and I loaned them the money to put down a deposit for the venue for their wedding, they lived in my rent/bill free for 5 months, they lived at my mothers house rent free for 1 year, my mother watched her son 5 days a week for free, and no one has done anything to help them!

    This b!tch has told my brother that if he talks to us, she will leave. He has to sneak around to call his family, and he texts us pictures of the kids when she is not around.

     

    oooh this crazy ass reminds me of my mil's brother's wife. I have yet to meet her thank god. She isn't necessarily physical but she is super crazy and my mil's brother also has to sneak around to phone calls and even family events. 

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  • We get along fine. She threw a tantrum when DH told her that he was going to ask me to marry him, but later realized it was just because she felt like she was losing him. She got over it, was in my wedding, and although we are super opposite we have fun at family gatherings. Do we talk and do stuff together outside of family functions? Not much, but I have 3 sisters of my own so I don't feel the need to go out of my way.
  • Lurker here, I have a story. My SIL (DH's sister) is ok with me, she says a few comments here and here but never anything worth mentioning. She had a huge fight with BIL's girlfriend though.

    SIL has two sons, but has always wanted to have a girl. When BIL's GF got pregnant, no one was overly excited because they had been together for a very short time but we all congratulated them and made the best of it. Except SIL. She was LIVID, telling BIL that if the baby was a girl, she would "kick his GF's asss". Insane.

    There ended up being complications with the pregnancy, and BIL's GF had to have an amnio. Everything ended up fine, and because of the amnio, they found out the sex of the baby; it was a boy. SIL texted BIL and said "I don't really care that your baby is fine, I'm just relieved it's a boy." Obviously, shiit show ensued, resulting in a huge fight on Christmas.

    Needless to say, DH and I are not in any rush to have kids.

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  • These were entertaining to read. My H sister is great I love her. It's my BIL and his wife that have been the ones I've had to get used to. They just act super high and mighty and pretend that their lives are perfect and pretty much just put a show on for everyone. Very annoying there was some drama last year but we are all trying to move on...I"m still leary about them but am learning to deal.

  • My BIL's fiance is very sweet! BUT the one thing I don't like is how our ILs are constantly comparing us to each other. They will tell me "B made us some really yummy bread- why don't you make us something??" or they will say to BIL, "A always calls us, but B never does. Tell her to call us more!"

    When ILs are out of the picture, we get along great.

  • image jnjmommy0609:
    image lildevil968:

    I have an evil SIL, so I will bite. My brother married her 2 years ago, they have been together almost 4 years, and it has been 4 years of hell for my family. When I deployed 4 years ago, my brother and his then girlfriend (SIL) moved into my house to help DH, plus they needed a place to live for a little while. All DH asked of them was to watch DD while he went to work. We covered all of their bills, and living expenses while they lived with us. One day DH came home from work, saw that DD had a pretty big bruise by her eye, asked SIL about it, she threw the laptop at him, hit him in the face, and stormed out. Her and my brother moved out of the house the next day.

    Fast forward a few days after they moved out of my house, they moved into my moms house. SIL asks my mom to watch her son while she goes to work, and she agree's. SIL and my mom start disagreeing on alot of things, SIL then starts calling my mother names, gets in knock down drag out fights with my brother (physical abuse), my mom throws them out of her house. So begins SILs hatred toward my parents.

    My brothers stupid a$$ marries her on 17 July 2010. The next day she finds out she is pregnant. She tells him that same day. A few days later she tells him that she is moving back to Texas, with or without him, and her son, and new baby are going with her. She wanted a divorce if he didn't move away from his family. They where gone within 4 months. The day before the new baby was born, we flew in to help her get things done, spend time with my nephew, and see the new baby. She refused to let us see the kids wouldn't let us come to the house, and wouldn't even let us be at the hospital. My brother had to sneak the baby, and my nephew out of the house so his family could see them before we left.

    This is also the same girl who swears up and down that no one in my brothers family has ever done anything to help them. DH and I loaned them the money to put down a deposit for the venue for their wedding, they lived in my rent/bill free for 5 months, they lived at my mothers house rent free for 1 year, my mother watched her son 5 days a week for free, and no one has done anything to help them!

    This b!tch has told my brother that if he talks to us, she will leave. He has to sneak around to call his family, and he texts us pictures of the kids when she is not around.

     

    oooh this crazy ass reminds me of my mil's brother's wife. I have yet to meet her thank god. She isn't necessarily physical but she is super crazy and my mil's brother also has to sneak around to phone calls and even family events. 

    Her and I actually got into a physical fight a few years ago because she hit my brother, and he wasn't going to defend himself, so I did.  I hope he comes to his senses some day, and leaves her before their kids think that kind of behavior is  exceptable.

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  • No SIL But I do have a crazed Aunt who's need to control everything clouds her judgement makes for very interesting holidays.
  • I've known my SIL since I was very young- and when I was a kid, she was great. Now that we're both older, she's been acting increasingly unstable- so much that I'm pretty sure she has some kind of personality disorder, either borderline or bipolar. She'll blow up for little to no reason, and then act like nothing happened and everything is fine. We won't speak for months (we live hundreds of miles apart), and then she'll send me some kind of catty text about how sad it makes her that I don't care enough to make an effort. She's totally crazy.

     

    As far as dealing with her bizarre episodes and behavior, I've learned to just ignore it and not rise to the occasion. When she started sending mean Facebook messages, I blocked her on Facebook. If she sends a mean text out of nowhere, I kill her with kindness and act like she didn't just say what she said. That's not to say I'm not tempted sometimes to wage war, but that really wouldn't do any good.

  • Only issue I have with my sil besides her being super cheap, and fake sometimes lol, is that everytime my brother and I are into she has to be mad at me also like Ive done something to her.
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    edited August 2014
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