I posted a while back about my mother's side of the family excluding DH and I in a lot of family get-togethers. I found out via facebook that my grandmother was diagnosed with lung cancer, and when I asked my mom about it, she said she texted me about it. I never received the text, but reguardless, you don't tell someone that a family member has cancer via text!
When my grandmother came to town to see some more doctors, DH and I went to my mom's house for dinner on a Sunday, and she told me they were going to see a doctor Tuesday morning. The hospital is very close to my office, so I offered to take them both out to lunch afterwards. My mom said no, because my grandma might be tired after the appointment, which was fine with me. Tuesday night, after work, I called my mom, to check up on grandma (she doesn't have a cell phone). No answer. Then I tried again Wednesday, and again on Friday, and no answer either time. I called during different parts of the day- multiple times a day, and left 3 voice mails. I finally facebooked my grandma asking how she was doing, but she never responded. My feelings were very hurt that they were ignoring me, when I didn't do anything wrong to either of them. That was two weeks ago.
Anyway, yesterday (again on FB) I saw a message from my cousin to her mother saying "We miss you, come home soon!" Then under that, my sister wrote a comment (to my cousin) saying "We don't get to see her very often! and she is leaving tonight anyway so you'll see her tomorrow!" I was crushed that no one (not even my sister) told me that my aunt was in town. We were very close when I was young, but then she moved out of state. I would spend my summers there every year in elementary and middle school. The last time I saw her was at my wedding- which was two and a half years ago! She is a nurse, so even when DH and I try to plan a trip to visit her, she always says it's a bad time, so we don't even bother, because she makes it sound like visiting her would burden her or something.
I just feel so left out of my family and it really hurts my feelings. part of me wants to confront my mom about ignoring my phone calls and not telling me that my aunt was in town, but another part of me just thinks "Why bother? It's obvious they don't want DH and I around." I feel so hurt.