I usually post on the knot since I just recently got engaged, but I am having family issues. I am even seeking therapy for, not sure if that's silly or not. Anyhow I will start from what recently happened.
I live with my fianc? and his mom. We all set up a get together to celebrate our engagement and also his sister's birthday. Kill two birds with one stone type of thing. So, my parents are very strict christian ( i also am christian just not as strict i guess) and alcohol is a big thing to them. Now, I invited my parents to come over tomorrow and let them know there will be alcohol, but my fianc?'s family will not get wasted or anything like that. They ..refuse to come because they said they do not like being around alcohol. I can respect that, only problem is, my aunt drinks heavily. Seriously. When she has events (cousin's birthdays or really any other events) the attend. So I feel hurt that they would go over to her and tolerate her drinking heavily in front of her kids, yet they cannot attend my engagement party. In which, to respect them, I would not have drank. I mean...I am only getting engaged once, it's not like it is a birthday. So, I am hurt. I know it was just an excuse.
I will also say that they were not happy about my engagement. They arent happy because my fiance isn't christian. They made it clear that they would prefer for me to come home crying and miserable saying that they are right and that my fiance abuses me. (he does not). I am very upset about how they aren't celebrating or happy about something so important to me because they brought me up with "family closeness is severely important. " And i am going so far as to not drink at my wedding because of respect for them.
I just feel that I am always trying to please them and have too high level of loyalty to them even though they just continue to hurt me and tell me i am overreacting. Their reaction to my engagement was, "we hope he will not beat you and that you will not be suffering or having a life of pain." and "oh thats interesting" and "congrats.I don't want any involvement in the wedding until god tells me that it is from him." I responded by saying..that they are invited to the wedding, but that that's fine and i understand. In reality...I do not get it. I am hurt. Disappointed. and slightly angry. . .
Okay, I think I am done. Thanks.