I have been with my bf for almost three years, we grew up together, and are expecting our first child Well with this being our first child and us being a little young (21 and 19) everyone has their opinions. My problem is when people I dont know over step boundaries. I am a very vocal person and I'm not really interested in making new friends or being friendly with everyone. I have my friends and I;m good with that. My bf on the other hand is the nice guy that is friends with everyone, he has never had a problem with anyone! It is almost a bad thing when it comes to some people because he just has to be friends with everyone. We had an issue with this before after being together for only about two months, we got over that quick and I barely think about it anymore. Well he tends to not let me know if someone says something that I wont like because I will say something to that person if given the chance, I dont think its okay to just let things ago they need to be addressed, and I most likely wont like them or go out of my way to know them.
So now to the actual problem..
A woman from his work, who is about 8 years older, was one of the first to find out about the baby. She said something that was not her place to say. I got upset and let him know, he stood up for us and our baby but then just let it go and was all normal with her. Well a while later I was looking for an email that was in a text from someone else and I came across a text from this woman. The basic content of the texts were "Now I fell like we can never be more than friends; I feel like you are off limits now; I wish she never got pregnant" I was furious! That is way out of line and not okay to say. When I brought it up to him basically seeing if he would tell me or not he did not tell me and said "There is nothing else bad" I finally told him I knew he he said sorry he just didnt want to cause stress and problems. I feel so hurt because he can continue to be friends with someone that doesnt respect our relationship/family. The responses he had to her texts werent bad he let her know that we are in love and happy and excited for our baby so I'm not worried about cheating. I'm just always wondering if things are being said that I dont know about. Or if he isnt telling me certain things. I will admit that I am a b**ch sometimes and have a temper/attitude, so I would have had alot to say about those messages!
I know I will never forget, but Im trying to work on how to trust he is telling me everything. I promised to work on my reactions and he promised to tell me everything. But I cant get over the feeling of not being told everything....
Sorry that was so long!!