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Pressure to have children
We have been married a little over two months and I'm feeling really pressured to have children already. It doesn't help that that between my friends and cousins, there will be over fifteen babies born this year. As excited as I am for them, we just aren't ready. My MIL asks us when we're going to start trying every time we see her. Every single time. My own mother is in some sort of competition with my aunt and is losing because my aunt has three grand kids and she doesn't have any. Even my friends are getting on me. They've all been married for at least two years before they all started trying so why can't we have two years? We were at a gathering yesterday and they were all drilling us with baby questions. We've already had sit-down talks with our parents and have explained to our friends that we are waiting a few years. I'm also beyond making silly jokes after being asked when we're going to have kids. Now I just make bitchy remarks every time we're asked. I don't know what advise I'm really looking for or if I just needed to vent. I just don't get how people can't respect our decision to wait.