I feel so bad for even saying that, typing make it seem worse. I did not invite my mother to my wedding because she does not like my husband. I live in South Carolina, had my wedding in North Carolina, and my mother is in Michigan. We had a whirlwind wedding, had an incredible ceremony and reception at a luxury mountain cabin retreat. It was quite small and intimate, and beautiful in every way. If my mom was there, she would have made the wedding weekend miserable. I know this from experience.
For example, my mother mutters things about my husband right in front of him, he does not respond of course, so I do. She's yelled at him, yelled at me about him, belittled both of us for our relationship, and I did not want to babysit my own mother at my wedding weekend retreat.There's more than just belittling and yelling; she acts as if he doesn't exist. He'll try to talk to her, even just greet her, and she ignores and reverts her attention to me, whether it be positive or negative. My mother is passive-aggressive and not going to change. We've only been married for 2 weeks and I already have anxiety about meetingmy mom for Christmas. (Thank goodness we do not live right by each other!) His parents will be in their retirement condo for Christmas, and my mother is going to be in her retirement condo in the same city in Florida. His mom insists on inviting my mother to her Christmas dinner. What am I to do? They have never had contact before. My MIL does not know that my mother does not like my hubby. I see the capability of many things going wrong!! Like World War III. I truly just want to explain that my mother will not be available, period. Yet my MIL is adamant. What do I do? I know I can't keep them away from each other forever, but I would like peace on my Earth for my 1st official Christmas with my husband. Please help! And thank you .