So Im going on three months of marriage and am getting a glimpse of the in-laws in action. Don't get me wrong, they are great but I need to create some boundaries and MIL is sensitive- my now sister in law tried to talk to her last year about something and MIL got all upset which created a year-long rift in the fam, thankfully its since been mended. Apparently my husbands side of the family argues by cutting all communication. A few things of note:
I moved into my fiances home that he owned before we met. Its OUR house now. His dad comes over to mow the lawn, very nice but doesn't call first or have a schedule. I tried to tell my husband, what if I want to lay out in a bikini? Id rather just know he was coming so I can do it on a different day. Hes like "whats the big deal?". We want to have kids in the next few years and I tried to explain to him that Im not entertaining your parents weekly while your at work b/c your mother decides to come over with your dad. He says he doesnt want to take away the house tasks from his dad b/c hes bored...and how can I say no when hes just trying to be nice yet I feel like Im living in someone elses home and its not mine.
Secondly, Im a pretty healthy person, work out, eat healthy, dont keep junk in the house. Husband-not so much. Im working on helping him be better with healthier habits. My MIL without fail comes over with cheesecakes, ice cream, 3 lb bags of M&Ms..it kills me. She thinks its funny. Granted she def. is a person that associates love with feeding ppl (she is an immigrant that came from poor, hungry beginnings in Europe) but she rarely respects my wishes when I say no about bringing junk food over...again, kids in the future...want them to eat well, not junk food.... and she is so sensitive everyone tip toes around her. What to do?