So i have two kids from a prior marriage. When i got with my new husband he knew that i was "fixed" and couldnt have more. Of course this has always been a topic if i would ever have to surgery to allow us to have a baby of our own.
Here are my points.
Id love to have baby with him with my first husband it was all me and he wasnt involved in anything but making that baby. with my new husband it would be wonderful to share that with him.
However, I have a 6 and 11 year old and I am not sure i want to start over again.. also i have a friend that did have the surgery and she had a few miss carriages and almost died giving birth I dont know if i can handle all that or if im that strong to handle that. When i hear almost dying I think "wow my kids need a mom more than anything" Also it worries that me that the new baby would be treated differently than my two kids because it is his child.
My question is how do i get to him just listen to my side without thinking i am just saying no. we have tried to talk about this and he gets upset and says "you just dont understand" I do understand but i dont think he realizes how scaring it is for me to think of all that. Its my body going through surgery and carrying a baby and miscarriages and all that.