Someone give me some direction please....parents have been married for over 40 years...dad has Parkinson's for the last ten but doing quite well. I moved a few hours away due to marriage and husbands job so my mom feels that she wants to be closer (i would love that but we arent totolly settled where we are so I told her be patient and we are working on coming back closer) Dad doesnt want to move, been in house for over 20 years I get 10+ emails a day about real estate listings from mom spanning hundreds of miles, like she isnt even focused on a location-and she picks ones far away from everyone- my dad has 2 brothers in the same town and she wants to look at a house that is over 3 hours from anyone they know. She is chomping at the bit and complains to me all the time, my dad says this has been her M.O. forever-live somewhere than hates it and wants to move...this the fourth place they have lived as married folks before kids and after me and my brother moved out.
I cannt be a marriage therapist or support her obsession to move yet she tells me im the only one she can talk to-my dad is stubborn and doesnt want to go anywhere. im afraid she will wear him out and he will cave, hes 72 cant drive b/c of his illness-if he moves where he doesnt know a soul and cant get around b/c of new surroundings, im afraid he will deteriorate very rapidly. shes being so selfish. how do i not ailenate her but not get involved but still be on my dads side????