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anyone else not on BC?

my friends think i'm crazy, but my husband and i rarely ever use condoms, and i'm not on BC--he just pulls out. It's worked for a while now - I haven't gotten pregnant. But does this mean I am infertile?

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  • I don't think it means you are infertile.  

    We have been using only the pull out method for maybe 5 years now, and often don't even bother pulling out and we haven't gotten pregnant.  I sometimes wonder if one of us is infertile, but I'm not going to let it bother or worry me until a Dr tells me that it is the case.

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  • You should meet HeatherL1986....she posted below and you sound like two peas in a pod.
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    I don't think it means you are infertile.??

    We have been using only the pull out method for maybe 5 years now, and often don't even bother pulling out and *knock on wood* we haven't gotten pregnant.? I sometimes wonder if one of us is infertile, but I'm not going to let it bother or worry me until a Dr tells me that it is the case.

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    So, you're trying to conceive. ?Good luck. ??

  • No, this doesn't mean your infertile. Thousands of high school students try this method and don't get pregnant. Then there are the ones who do get pregnant...and we all know what happens with them.
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    I don't think it means you are infertile.  

    We have been using only the pull out method for maybe 5 years now, and often don't even bother pulling out and *knock on wood* we haven't gotten pregnant.  I sometimes wonder if one of us is infertile, but I'm not going to let it bother or worry me until a Dr tells me that it is the case.

     

    So, you're trying to conceive.  Good luck.   

     

    No, we're not trying hard to prevent conception.  Thanks for the luck.

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  • Good grief. Why in this day and age of modern times are you dumb enough to rely on the withdrawal method???

    Holy cow, woman...get thee to a gyno. If you don't like the pill, try a diaphragm or an IUD.

  • I just recently went off of Yaz, seeing after 10 months of taking it, it made me throw up for a month straight. I went off of it, I already feel better. The hormones just weren't doing it for me.

     My husband is catholic, so he doesn't believe in BC, I was only on it for PMDD and severe bleeding (Like, changing a heavy pad every hour for 2 weeks straight)...and it seemed to slow.

     But, I mean, we do the pull out sometimes.

     Before we were married, we used that method, and I never was pregnant. Though we did use a condom sometimes, but I ended up being allergic to latex, and I didn't want to spend so much on other kinds.... >>; But anyway, I am not worried if I get pregnant, I want to be anyway. All I am waiting on is hubby's health insurance to kick in. 

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     But, I mean, we do the pull out sometimes.

     Before we were married, we used that method, and I never was pregnant. Though we did use a condom sometimes, but I ended up being allergic to latex, and I didn't want to spend so much on other kinds.... >>; But anyway, I am not worried if I get pregnant, I want to be anyway. All I am waiting on is hubby's health insurance to kick in. 

     

    Yeah, cuz babies are so much cheaper than the non latex condoms.

    How does your husband feel about you wanting to be pregnant...is he up for that too?  Or is that what YOU want.

  • DH and I use condoms, and are pretty happy with them.  I was on hormonal BC pills, and it made me pretty sick.  I switched around between pills, and they either made me sick to my stomach, gave me horrible headaches, or I wasn't able to sleep while taking them.  Go figure.  We're totally okay with the teeny bit of extra risk that comes along with properly used condoms as opposed to pills.  :)
  • Not neccessarily.? My best friend from high school used the "pull out" method with her now husband, and she never got pregnant.? She thought she was infertile because she got so lucky not getting pregnant our senior year of HS and freshman year of college.? She got married the summer our freshman year of college, started on birth control... four months later, she was pregnant.

    So maybe you've just been lucky... or unlucky if you're TTC?
  • A girl below (see post "could I be pregnant?") just got flamed for this today ... just beware; you'll probably be next ...

    anyway, are you TTC right now?  It often takes peope months to get pregnant so if you're trying I wouldn't worry about it. And ask your Dr. about it as well. 

     

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  • I have a friend who honestly thought this was a good method of birth control.  She was late so that's how the conversation came up.  She was between jobs with no insurance so couldn't afford an office visit to get on the pill. I suggested her calling her gyno & asking for a BCP prescription & as long as she had an exam in the past year, she would probably call it in for her (this is in the case that she got her period which she did).

    I was just saying how BCP was better to prevent pregnancy than condoms since she was worrying every few months, I never rely on just condoms.  She then told me she never had an exam (at the age of 24) or used condoms.  I asked her what they used, she said that he pulls out.  I told her I couldn't believe she hadn't gotten pregnant before.

    Sure it's a method of BC if you want to call it that but it's less than 70% effective.  I prefer 99%.

  • The absolute stupidity of some women makes me want to scream.  And then it makes me mourn humanity.

    If you're not trying to prevent conception, you're welcoming a pregnancy.  Just because you use pull and pray and haven't gotten pregnant yet doesn't mean you won't.........it just means you've been lucky so far. 

    I can't imagine being so cavalier about my reproduction.

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  • OK, so I am super late to this topic, but seriously, nothing is happening on any boards today!

    It does not necessarily mean that you are infertile, but if you are seriously not wanting to be pregnant it does make you a little foolish. There are only a few days a month when it is actually possible to get pregnant, but it is impossible to know what these days are unless you are charting. If you do not like the BCP or condoms (and are not interested in IUD etc.), I would recommend looking into some form of natural family planning. I only recommend this if you would be OK if you accidentally ended up pregnant. Read a boook called Taking Charge of Your Fertility, there is a lot of info there directed at natural birth control. Charting will also help you determine if you are in fact having fertility problems. It will be an invaluable resource when you do start TTC. You can use a site like Fertilityfriend.com for your charting. this site is designed for those TTC, but it is the same info you will need for TTA. It may all seem like a lot at first, but it wil come pretty naturally after a while. I am by no means an expert, but if you have any questions, please feel free to let me know. The girls on thebump are well versed in charting and are very helpful if you have any questions.

  • I  got pregnant on bc three years ago...with twins.  Since we had the girls in Feb. 06 we have only used the pull out and pray method.  So far it's working for us and we have sex several times a week.  We both know it's not 100% effective, but we have the method down pretty well.  I just don't have full-faith in bc after what happened to us and I don't like how I feel with hormones put into me.  I am not suggesting this as birth control at all...just stating my experience.
  • There are only about 4-5 days to get pregnant in your cycle and not all are the most fertile days (1-2 days are most fertile). I think some people are just more fertile than others.  So it is possible that it works. 
  • I'm not on anything and haven't been for about almost 2 years. We pull out as well though. MH always said if it happens, it happens.
  • It all boils down to risk vs. consequence. If you're fine with a method that has a 30% failure rate for imperfect use (4% for perfect use), then who are we to flame you? If you're not prepared for a pregnancy, then no, you shouldn't be using that method. Surprisingly, withdrawal is about as effective as a diaphragm or other barrier methods.


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