So back in January, my husband had was let go from his job while we were trying to save up to move to my home town. But now we had no where to stay while continuing to save money and try and get jobs in said town, so my husband ask his mother if we could crash with her, in her unfinished basement apartment. She had offered us this apartment a while back, but because we didn't want to live in that area, we turned her down. My husband explained to her that we just needed a couple months to pull together some more money so we could get a decent apartment and job in my hometown.
Then out of the blue she tells us, she wants to finish off the basement first because she felt we needed more space. Of course we told her that it wasn't needed, and we would be perfectly fine with the two rooms that were already finished, but she insisted so we just figured it was her excuse to do something she had already really wanted to do.
Now we are super close to being able to move and we've been looking for jobs in my home town. And now she has begun to dangle "what she did for us" over our heads. She doesn't want us to move, because then it would be like she "wasted her money." She keeps talking about how much debt it put her in and how much she really needs us to stay and keep paying her rent. Every time I am up late at night because I can't sleep, she talks about how I should get a night job. My husband thinks I am being too sensitive and that she is just concerned about us, or joking. I am so frustrated. Helping her pay for things is making it really hard to get to our savings goal. I am really grateful for all she has done for us, but this just feels like she is taking advantage of us.Am I wrong? Am I being selfish?