My husband and I have been together for 5 years and have been married for almost 2. We are both 24.
I am a long term planner (and short term as well!) and absolutely love planning events in our lives. Trips in particular. We have been lucky enough to travel to different places and I enjoy it so much! Hubby is a little different. He would rather spend money on our condo (which is brand new - nothing wrong with it) and buying new furniture (even though ours is fine) and spending any disposable income at any chance he gets (oh, did I mention he spent $8000 in two months on meaningless crap - such as coffee and lunch every day etc.There is nothing to show for that money, which was our emergency savings).
I see things differently. I would rather live on a budget throughout the year if it means I am able to take a two week vacation to Hawaii or the Caribbean every year (and when I mean budget I mean we are still able to go away on weekends and go out to eat every week etc - therefore its not like we are eating ketchup sandwiches every night!). I feel that this is the time to travel and experience everything we can before we have kids. If it happens to be a tight month for money I always get it thrown back in my face that we 'never' have money because I am always planning the next trip.
Most have now started to argue about these differences between us. He never gets excited about anything which bothers me. Granted I love planning, I still love his help and it makes me happy knowing he is excited for our upcoming plans/trip or whatever it is. It seems like one argument leads to the next. If he could, he would rather sit around all day over the weekends and not do anything. I am different, I would rather go hiking/walking/exploring/travelling etc. I am always the one to initiate the weekend and granted he sometimes enjoys himself when he gets out, I almost have to twist his arm to do anything which bothers me as well; to me it takes the excitement (on my end obviously) out of things.
We have been discussing the option of living and working abroad for a year before we have kids. I have always wanted to do this and scratch it off my 'baby bucket list'. He could take it or leave it. He said he will do it if it makes me happy. Is it wrong of me to think that isn't good enough. I don't want to force someone to do something they don't really want to do. I want to enjoy things with someone that enjoys them just as much as I do. I also don't want it thrown back in my face years later or have to 'owe' him something because we got to do what 'I' wanted to do.
Sorry this is really long and possibly confusing. I am torn as I am not sure if I am overreacting about him not wanting the same exciting things as I do or if maybe I should just give up on trips and start saving for babies and the future.