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My BCP affects my sex drive! what do i do?

Before my wedding I started Leostrin 24. Before I started the pill I have an extremely good feeling and experiences with sexual encounters (although I did not have sex before marriage, I did everything else ;) ) Anyway, once I got married the sex sucked. I was never into it, and hated it. I dreaded having sex which was crazy since I thought I would LOVE it. A year into our marriage I went off the Loestrin. My drive back!! Hubs and I had more sex in 2 weeks of being off than I did the first year. It was affecting our marriage! We aren't intentionally trying to get pregnant  but we are both ok if it does. I would like to wait a few more months to get pregnant, but I dont know if I should start trying a new BCP and get regulated again for 3 more months if I will get off it in about 4 or 5 to TTC. and I took another BCP before leostrin and had bad side effects. Im nervous to try another. I don't know what I should do. 
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Re: My BCP affects my sex drive! what do i do?

  • What about condoms?  Its only for a few months until you are ready to TTC.
  • So this might sound strange but they are against our religion... you can't use anything to prevent seamen from entering. BC is kind of a gray area, but since it doesn't prevent seamen, it is allowed. 
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  • image purplepeanut6:
    So this might sound strange but they are against our religion... you can't use anything to prevent seamen from entering. BC is kind of a gray area, but since it doesn't prevent seamen, it is allowed. 

     Pssst...that's semen.:)

    Seamen are enlisted forces that travel by water.:)

    What about NFP?  It's used with great success.

    I am curious -- what religion do you practice?

  • Yah, what NFP? 

    Judaism.  

     

     

    "Judaism is more

       concerned with the birth control method used; in particular, some
       methods are not permitted because of the injunction against "the
       destruction of seed." For example, contemporary Orthodox rabbinical
       authority has expressed no objection to the use of the "pill". Still, 

       the use of condoms is forbidden, as are some uterine devices."

    http://www.faqs.org/faqs/judaism/FAQ/04-Observance/section-60.html#b 

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  • Just a question:  If the condom does not have a spermicide, is it still considered to have destroyed the seed?

    Does the same concept apply to a diaphragm?  Or the cervical cap?  Is there just a ban on all barrier methods?

    I would probably just buy a couple of boxes of ovulation prediction kits and avoid sex when you are ovulating.   

  • I would stop the birth control pills now rather than starting new ones. Many women don't ovulate for months or even a year after stopping BCP. If you're not ovulating, you have no chance of getting pregnant that month. However, some women start ovulating right away, so you don't want to assume you won't ovulate if you're not prepared for a baby a few months earlier than you planned.

    NFP is Natural Family Planning. Basically you monitor your body's fertility signs (basal temperature, cervical mucus, cervix position, etc) and abstain from sex around when you are ovulating. The success rate of this depends on how accurately and consistently you monitor and record your signs, as well as whether or not you choose to listen to them or have sex anyways. One positive about this method is that the information you gain from monitoring your body would be useful when you start TTC - instead of avoiding the time around when you ovulate, you would have sex then.

     As the previous poster suggested, you could use ovulation tests and avoid sex for about 3-4 days once they go positive. However, you would have to be comfortable taking an increased risk with this method. An ovulation test will go positive approximately 24-48 hours before you actually ovulate. Sperm can live in your fallopian tubes for up to 5 days. As you can see, you could potentially have some sperm still hanging around from sex you had before your positive ovulation test and end up pregnant.

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