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What does this mean?

I went to my fiance's cousins baby shower over this past weekend.  His Mom didn't attend.  She called me and asked how it was, how did the mom-to-be look, etc?  I said she looked fantastic and jokingly said "She somehow managed to say thin."  She replies, "Well if you get fat when you get pregnant, don't worry.  It's ok."  I quickly responded, "OK, gotta go now."

 What the heck does that mean?  Better yet, what is she implying?  Or am I crazy for being offended? 

Re: What does this mean?

  • Yes to your last question.
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    I said she looked fantastic and jokingly said "She somehow managed to say thin."  She replies, "Well if you get fat when you get pregnant, don't worry.  It's ok."  I quickly responded, "OK, gotta go now."

    I think you were the rude one, as she was trying to give you an out if/when your body does what it will when you're pregnant. 

  • If that offends you, good luck when you actually are pregnant.  People say all kinds of dumb sh*t and offer a ton of unsolicited advice.
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    I said she looked fantastic and jokingly said "She somehow managed to say thin." She replies, "Well if you get fat when you get pregnant, don't worry. It's ok." I quickly responded, "OK, gotta go now."

    I think you were the rude one, as she was trying to give you an out if/when your body does what it will when you're pregnant.

    Yeah. This. You "joked" that the MTB stayed thin, which means she gained weight - noticable weight.  And YOU were the rude one to comment on that.  What is your MIL actually supposed to say to THAT?  I think what she said was actually gracious.  It wasn't about you and you're body.  It was that you just said something rude about a family member of hers. 
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  • You guys are right - She has a history of saying rude things ("your house smells like cat pee" mind you, we dont own cats, "dont worry you'll have a bigger kitchen one day", etc...) so I'm extra sensitive.  I definitely need to take a chill pill when it comes to this kind of stuff.

    And East Coast - I geniunly meant what I said, the mom to be really looked great, I wasnt at all implying she gained weight, other than baby weight of course.  Maybe "jokingly" wasnt the best word to use there.  She looked fantastic and perhaps I didn't go about communicating that the best way.

  • Granted, I also can't hear how you said it.

    But pregnancy and weight can be a sensitive topic for anyone, and MIL could have been talking from her own experience.

    While she's been rude to you in the past (and will probably continue to be), I do recommend that you try to take a step back from stuff she says/does and try to look at it from a different perspective.  If you get caught up in finding fault in everything she does, it can be a slippery slope.

    I'm not saying ignore truly rude/ outrageous/hurtful things (and I would hope your DH would back you up), but I also feel that many people just tend to be overly sensitive when it comes to their MIL's. 

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  • Exactly, and that's why I didnt include the history in the original post.  I wanted feedback from people who dont know the backstory so I'd get un-tainted answers.  I'm trying to work on taking things at face value as they come so I dont overreact to stupid stuff - such as the pregnancy/weight comment.  No matter what, I knew that wasn't a battle worth picking with her.  

    And btw, just like you cant hear how I say it, you cant hear how she says is either (like fingernails on a chalkboard - ahhh!).  But I digress. 

    Thanks for the insight.

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    Exactly, and that's why I didnt include the history in the original post.  I wanted feedback from people who dont know the backstory so I'd get un-tainted answers.  I'm trying to work on taking things at face value as they come so I dont overreact to stupid stuff - such as the pregnancy/weight comment.  No matter what, I knew that wasn't a battle worth picking with her.  

    And btw, just like you cant hear how I say it, you cant hear how she says is either (like fingernails on a chalkboard - ahhh!).  But I digress. 

    Thanks for the insight.

    It's good that you are working on it- at least from your post, it didn't seem like she was trying to be offensive. If anything, I would have taken it as either a joke, or as perhaps the fact that SHE had gained weight during pregnancy and was trying to convey that it's not the biggest deal in the world if someone gains a few pounds. I would have been more taken aback if she had said something to the opposite effect. 

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