First let me say that my mom is very judgy. Ever since I can remember I have always felt like I need their approval with everything. In high school I felt like I had to hang out with the rich, popular kids because those were the kind of people my parents expected me to hang out with. My parents made no secret of the fact that they wanted me to date people that were of the same socioeconomic status and who looked a certain way. One of the nicest people I dated, and who treated me the best, had tattoos and was short, plus he had two children already (my mom said he made her want to throw up in her mouth). She didn't like H in the beginning either and thought that I made a mistake marrying him (he is divorced and has a 9 year old son). I feel like it is getting even worse now that I have DS. She is always telling me what I should be doing with him, or what I shouldn't be doing. DH travels for his job and my mom always wants me to stay at their house while he is gone so they can see the baby. Now that DS is much easier for me to take care of I would like to just stay at my house but I am made to feel guilty for not going over, and question my ability to be able to do everything by myself while DH is gone. However, if I am at my parents for 2.5 days then I get nothing done at my own house and feel overwhelmed when I get home. DH and I are also looking to either buy or build a new house and my parents have been very vocal about what we should or should not buy. What they don't seem to realize is that although it would be nice, we can't get everything that we "should" have in the price range we can afford (attached garage, large basement, spare office, nice backyard, nice neighborhood). I feel so frustrated feeling like I am being judged on everything and if they don't approve then it is like I am letting them down. I also don't want this to rub off on DS and him to be raised in the same way. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and they are wonderful people, but sometimes I feel like they are too involved and if I don't follow what they think is "best" for me that they will be disappointed. How do I get over this? I am feeling really down and depressed today.