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I think I want to keep the baby...
Not really sure what board I should have posted this on because it's a little bit of both baby and relationship. So anyways long story short I'm preggo, and we both are on the fence cause we want the baby but we don't ( please spare me of the negative comments only reply with advice) we want the kid because honesty we both want a kid but it happened at a bad time because the boyfriend had to quit his job and go live with his dad to take care of him. So he's now not planning on working (which I'm not mad at him because taking care of his dad is a full time job) so since we found out all this was going to take place we have been extra careful but it didn't matter because I was already preggo (so im clearly a little further along then we were hoping as well) so now if we keep the kid I'd have to move to a different town, hope I can find a job, that can pay for me and child and be away from my family. I need advice please.. Thanks in advance for the ones who will give real advice
Also if I do keep the kid I wouldn't want to resent that he's not working, just like I wouldn't want him to do if it was switched but let's be real and baby needs its mother more in the beginning
Re: I think I want to keep the baby...
How old are you and your BF? What is your financial situation? Can you afford basic needs? What's your family/friend situation like? In your BF's absence, do you have a strong support system in place?
It's one thing to *want* a baby, and I understand you when you say you do. It's another thing to actually have one.
Good thing - I'm sure this is a difficult decision for you.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Oh also I wouldn't consider moving till after the baby because who's really going to hire a pregnant women? and where I'm at now I'm make decent money.
Most companies don't really "have" the paid maternity leave that you might be looking for these days. However, if you've worked there more than a year, and the site employs 50 or more employees, then your position is protected by the Family Medical Leave Act. This means they have to allow you to take up to 12 weeks off for the care of a newborn and allow you to return to a comparable position.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton