My grandma and I have a language barrier. She doesn't speak English and while I understand Spanish pretty well, I don't speak it (I speak French fluently which is both a help and hinderance when I try to communicate with her).
Although we live in the same city we don't see each other as often as I'd like and she's said some rude things about/to me. I'm just not sure how to handle it. When I was younger I didn't date much so she always asked my brothers (who do speak Spanish) if I was gay, why I didn't lose weight to try and get a boyfriend, etc. I realized that this was due to generational/cultural differences since she got married as an 18-year-old bride in Cuba in the early 1950s.
Since being married she doesn't really speak to DH or I unless it's to tell us we need to have kids, we're a disappointment for not having any yet and that we're selfish for not having kids. This past weekend we drove her to Texas with us to go visit one of my brothers whose wife just had a baby. While there she said to my brother multiple times, "I don't know why you sister is so selfish and doesn't have a baby. She and Macu (my only cousin on that side) are so selfish for not having babies." This hurt a good bit for two reasons. 1) DH and I have been TTC for almost 2 years and 2) Macu just had an abortion and is indeed pretty selfish (nothing to do with the abortion, a woman's choice is her choice and I'm down with a woman being in charge of her own body).
Am I being childish for taking it so hard? Should I say something? Only the brother we visited and his wife know we've been trying, so should I even bother bringing it up with others? I don't mean to be super sensitive about it, but a few days later it still stings... Any advice?