I am a non-denominational Christian, my husband is an athiest. We have mutually agreed to bring DS to church each week, because of the sound teachings of how to be a good person is found there (in addition to daily respect of treating people at home/school).
My mother is evangical. She has parties during the christian holidays, where she invites her church friends to. My issue I have is, over the past several events where her friends have been, to paint a picture for you, they sit in a common area room (den, living room) with a bible and pray and discuss biblical teachings. If anyone is around them, they recite the bible passages to them. They cant seem to hold conversations outside of christian teachings. It makes many (including myself) uncomfortable. I have discussed this with my mother, while respecting her beliefs. She stonewalls me, she doesn't think what they are doing is making people uncomfortable...and I'm the crazy one. Fine, moving on.
My mother is having an easter party, and like we planned last christmas, DH, DS and I went to my family's home about 1-2 hours earlier, so we could have a small family gathering (without her friends). DH thinks its important for DS to see his grandparents during the holidays - even if he doesn't believe the same thing as them...he enjoys the spirit of the season.
I explained to my mother how we would like to come an hour or so earlier, one, my Dad's birthday is the day before - so I'd like to give a gift, etc. and (two) we could hang out and DS could see his easter basket. My mother has an issue with this...she is giving me guilt trips. Over and over again she keeps asking me if I'm coming at 4p (the time the party starts), and I keep giving her the same answer. I tell her, that I have to do whats right by my family, and ask her why she is badgering me with the same question as if I'm going to change my mind.
She thinks what we are doing is silly, and we should still go at the time she says...like I'm 3yo or something.
Am I handling this wrong? How should I have handled this different?