Hoping you ladies can help. My best friend and College roommate is my age, been married for 7 years and doesn't have kids. All our friends have kids and many social events incl the kids and, I don't know, I'm just sensitive to it b/c I have no idea if she has IF or is having TTTC or just doesn't want kids. How can I find out without being a nosy insensitive biitch when I just want to be a caring friend with no agenda?
Background: We were very close in College but jobs and marriage have distanced us some. We are still the kind of people though that can see each other or pick up the phone and pick up where we left off. Thing is, she is not a very warm and fuzzy let-me-tell-you-about-my-feelings type person. That's my job in our relationship, lol.
So, I have been trying to find a way for a while to just get a check on where she stands. If she's having TTTC is doing things w/ us and the kids brutal? Maybe if I knew I could help mitigate that (suggest kid-less things, etc) Or, does she just not want kids but loves seeing all of ours?
I don't know I feel like it's just such a sensitive topic that I'm not sure how to bring up. Maybe the answer is that I don't ask - but I'd like to know that too.