First, some background...My fiance is the only child of his never-married mother. They live in the house his grandparents owned. (They are both passed.) He was their caretaker and he inherited the house. His mother has some medical issues and he cares for her as well. He runs her erands, takes her to Dr. appts, etc.
Here's the problem: She feels that the house is hers. She refuses to let him throw anything away and is somewhat of a hoarder. There is NO counter space, things are piled everywhere, and she insists nothing can be disposed of, she needs it all. There is no garbage, just years worth of magazines, knick knacks, old clothes, etc. I and my fiance try to clean things out but she refuses to cooperate.
We have been together for 2 years and want to live together, and eventually get married. We are in out 40s. I am OK with her living there as she is mostly pleasant, but when he told her I was moving in, she went off the deep end. Yelling about not enough room, and that she wuld be embarrased with us "shacking up."
He won't stand up to her and tell her it's going to be "our" house, not hers. My friends tell me to run, that it's a situation that won't change...but he's a great guy and I love him. I think we could have a great life, even with her there, but I can't live in those conditions.
Anyone have a similar situation??