I'll TRY to keep this short
My sister has been married for 6 years. They had a small get together at the courthouse and dinner afterward.(I remember the date because she planned her "wedding" for the month after mine and it was all she wanted to talk about during my showers...).
Now, 6 years later, she feels the need to have the "real" wedding that she never had, but she expects the families to pay for it. It is customary in our culture for close family members to volunteer to cover certain wedding expenses as a gift to the newlyweds. For example, my aunts paid for my cake, my step-dad paid for the band, and my uncle did the photos for free...
Thing is, in her case, I don't think this is how the tradition works -- she's already married with two kids!
Plus just 4 months ago she asked the whole family to send her as much money as they could to help her pay her rent. I sent her the 300 she asked for, but agreed with my husband that it was a one time thing and I know he would not be up for giving her more money in a year for a wedding that she cannot afford. -- They are still struggling to make ends meet and plan on moving home to live with their in-laws once their tax money comes in. Plus, she is planning this wedding for the month before we are due to have our first baby so I will not be allowed to fly in for the wedding because my doctor already told me I have to stay put after my 30 week mark.
How do I go about not pitching in for this wedding without coming across as a total ***** (I know I'm being a little bit of one but that's ok...) I don't even want to hear about her planning, but anytime I talk to her she wants my advice on wedding planning - ugh!!!