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Birthday Dinner Payment Rules

My Dh's 30th is this year.

I want everyone (20-30 people) to go to dinner at his favorite local place (Montgomery Inn for the Cincy girls), however I DO NOT want to pay for this meal. We're talking $20-30 pp without drinks.

Can I send out an invite for this sort of thing? If I do that, will people assume I am paying? OR is there a way to word this without being tacky ...
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Re: Birthday Dinner Payment Rules

  • I think if you send out a formal invite than it might imply that you pay.

    If you informally asked, than I think people would recognize that its every man for himself.  

    This might also depend on your circle of family/friends and whats the norm. For me, a formal invite = free dinner.  

  • Facebook event it is. :)

    My family totally gets that it'd be every man for himself. His family, not so much. Our friends, would be a mix, that's why I'm nervous.
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  • image sunshine608:

    I think if you send out a formal invite than it might imply that you pay.

    If you informally asked, than I think people would recognize that its every man for himself.  

    This might also depend on your circle of family/friends and whats the norm. For me, a formal invite = free dinner.  

    Totally this.  

  • I did this for Jake's law school graduation and I didn't want to pay ofr it all. So, I just sent out a very informal evite and facebook invite. Everyone paid for themselves and it didn't seem to be an issue.
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  • For me it depends on the wording.  If I am told I'm being invited, I'm not paying.  If I am asked to join them, I expect to pay.
  • I did this once for a co-worker who was leaving--- we added to the invitation a link to the restaurant menu... It said--- for a complete menu for <Restaurant> click here, entrees range from $10-$20.  I think that the link made it super obvious that it was not being paid for.
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