I made a post here a long time ago about some of the unusual actions my brother has been doing. it seems to be getting worse. He cant take my mother, my SIL or me seriously. I think he is getting tired of the criticism we give him and is depressed. I asked my SIL if hes been this way since our father died in sept, she told me it was before that and now its getting worse.. He is a grown adult and before he got married had a son he was responsible and smart enough to know better. now its like hes in high school, if he hadnt been married with a family I wouldnt care what crap he did but now its affecting my Nephew and my SIL. Last night I had to go to my SIL and brother's apt because she told me that kicked in the door and shoved her on the couch (she is also 7weeks pregnant) I tried hard to comfort her, she wants to leave and go back to her family in Brazil, but at the same time she wants to stay because its safer in the US. She is from Brazil and speaks little english, when im not working I try to be with her and talk through her laptop with a google translator. she has almost no friends and depends on my brother to translate for her and take her to the OBGYN. he has been skipping her appts(now I am offering to take her) plays Xbox all day when hes suppose to be watching my 2yr old nephew and what I have heard spent around 15,000 life insurance my passing father gave him, he has almost nothing left since sept 2011. He has a chance to transfer to NC for work because the company is closing in CT but has no desire to leave. He wants to finish school even though it has taken years for him to finish, had dropped out last year lying to my mom and I about staying in school. His behavior is self-destructive I think he is lost. there is a part of me that wants call the police for him shoving my SIL and the fact I think my nephew isnt being properly being taken cared of. but apart of me loves my brother. But he tells my mom and I everything is good when my SIL isnt around or cant speak for herself. When now im hearing about this behavior. I want to have a heart to heart talk to him but afraid he wont take me seriously and laugh me off.