Okay, so let me start by saying that I feel like the luckiest woman in the world. I am marrying an amazing man next year who I love more than anything and sex with him is absolutely incredible. Little bit of background: He is a bit older (13 years) but this has never really been a factor in our relationship, I had to grow up quickly and have always been very mature and he is a very young person at heart (while also being a very responsible, strong man). Also, before him I had only had sex with two other men, my high school sweetheart and college boyfriend. With both of these men I never had an orgasm and I always tried so hard to avoid sex, it really just felt like a chore so I didn't get a whole lot of practice at "seduction." With my fiance, depending on how long we go I can literally have three to four orgasms per session so obviously I have flipped over to the side of loving to have sex with him.
Now my fiance and I have had our long discussions regarding our sex life (essentially, I want to have sex more and he doesn't want to have to always be the one to initiate it). I can completely understand how he feels but he also says that I only really come on to him when I have had a few drinks. Well, the reason is because that's when my mental blocks and self consciousness really drops and I just go for it. My big question is what have you done to get over those blocks when you are stone cold sober because I will admit that I feel silly sometimes. Now I am a scientific person and like to have a plan, so there are times that I will literally sit at work all day thinking (daydreaming!) about scenarios in which I am hot sex kitten but then I get home and I lose all my nerve! It really has nothing to do with our relationship because I know that he would love anything I do, its just in my head and I can't get around it!
Also, he has been talking about a strip tease of some kind for quite awhile, and I really want to do this for him but I always go back to feeling ridiculous because I am also somewhat of a klutz!