I copied all the financial records, (that I've found) although I don't have anywhere to store them except for my bag I carry with me. I'll be able to move it to my sisters this weekend though.
I had a long talk with him tonight. Actually, he didn't feel like we were in a partnership from the get go - 5years ago. He said he felt like he was raising a little kid, like he was a father to me instead of a husband. There's something I don't think I said before, I hid my debt that I had from him before we got married. He found out exactly 2-months into the marriage how much debt I had. He knew I had debt, but not as much as he thought. After talking to my dad he realized the problems I had with money in the past. I think that's where everything started getting rocky. He said that if he would've found this out before hand we would've never gotten married. So, in his eyes, it really wasn't a partnership because he was always constantly worried about what else I was hiding from him, etc. I can't totally blame him for that either. I wasn't the most responsible wife. He even admitted that he was an a$$ for even commenting about my weight. He just see's that I've got alot of potential and I wasn't even trying. And - I wasn't. He admitted that we both stopped trying a long time ago. I guess it's what happens when you get comfortable. Somewhere along the way I lost pride in myself. He's also not going to fight me on anything. He's giving me 1/2 the savings, which I didn't even contribute to, - the good car if I just want to take over payments for it - or the other car which isn't so good but he'd put the money into repairing it. He even said he'd give me the house, which I really don't want, but he said he'd sell it and I'd get 50% of that. I'm know that's the law, but I have never paid anything on the mortgage. He's nearly paid off the house. As far as him controlling the money he said he only did that because he knew my spending problems and he needed to make sure it was there for what we needed it for. At the beginning of our marriage - I wanted him to do that because I was actually scared of myself. Before I marriage I went thru a time where I was buying random sh!t for I don't even know why. I saw a counselor for awhile way back then and she pinpointed it as depression. People sometimes buy things to fill the holes sort of thing.