I am getting married next year and have experienced some tension with a former bridesmaid/friend. The backstory: my friend, I?ll call her ?Dawn? had broken up with her boyfriend last summer. While she was single, my fianc? and I, Dawn and a few of our friends went out for some drinks. She then met my fianc?s good friend, ?Dave?, and they ending up talking most of the night and hitting it off. Much to our surprise, they instantly start dating and this continues for a couple of months.
Dawn decides to get back together with her ex and they get engaged shortly afterwards. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding in August and everything was seemingly fine and dandy. She was also to be in my wedding which is in May. My girls and I had picked a date to go dress shopping and we were all set. A few weeks ago, I get a text from Dawn that we need to talk in person very soon. She comes over my house a night soon after and she drops a bomb. Her now husband is forbidding her to be in my wedding due to her dating Dave, who is a groomsman, last year. That?s not all, not only is she not able to be a bridesmaid, but she is even ?allowed? to come to my wedding at all! This is a friend since high school, so about 12 years now. She tells me she has done everything to try to convince him otherwise, fighting, crying, talking to him and he is not budging. My first thought is where does a man even have the right to tell you what may and may not do?! She continues to give me some backstory and says he told her all this on their HONEYMOON in Hawaii!! Who does that??
I feel like he is being a total douche and this has definitely created a roadblock in our friendship. Since she can?t attend one of the biggest days of my life, I?m guessing any future events in our lives are out of the question. It has been very hurtful to me and I no longer like her husband and question her as a friend altogether. Any advice? Am I taking this too sensitively?