So, I just had a long conversation with my mom. She filled me in on all the money problems they're having (they owe several thousand in back-taxes from last year, which they're taking out of an account my dad's company has for him, depleting all their savings, as well as needing to hold out x percent for taxes for this year, since my dad kept his job when they moved, but as a contract employee, etc). They also have several thousand in credit card debt she claims is from them moving to FL in 2006 and moving back to NC in 2010, along with spending money frivolously and needlessly. I know some of you may find me flameful for judging what they do with their money, but you'll see why it affects me in a minute.
She also filled me in on all the health problems she and my dad have. They're concerned my dad has cancer, as he's been smoking since he was 17 and is starting to have breathing problems. She has diabetes (was diagnosed in 2000), the same heart condition her mom died of, and was recently diagnosed with a thyroid disorder. Her doctor told her all of those conditions are a direct result of her weight.
As if all this wasn't bad enough for me to hear, she said, "Well, it's a good thing you're not going to have kids because you'll have your hands full enough with taking care of me and your father and all our debts."
I don't want kids, true. But if I did, the idea of having them now would terrify me even more! I could just scream. Everyone in our family knows that my sister won't have any hand in helping or caring for my parents once they can no longer do for themselves - she's even said so herself. She's 19 and living off them - no job, not going to school, not contributing to the house, etc. We keep hoping she'll grow up, but there's not even a speck of light at the end of that tunnel. I'm mad at her because she's refusing to be an adult, and that my parents are enabling her. I'm mad at my parents for not taking care of of their finances and I know they have nothing they could retire on. I'm mad because I know all that will fall to me in who knows how long because they're making bad health choices.
Words of encouragement would be helpful. But if I'm totally off base in feeling the way I do, feel free to let me know.