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Stolen from DC Board: Moms over 50

Re: Stolen from DC Board: Moms over 50

  • I think it's fine. To each their own. As long as these parents are smart about the fact that they're not going to be around for as long as the typical parent, and they plan accordingly, I don't see an issue.
  • Interesting. I don't think it's something I would do, but obviously it's what they want and they're happy about it. 

    It feels a little forced though. Women become unable to bear children at a certain age for good reason, I believe. Plus, I'm pretty sure the risk of a baby having Down's Syndrome (and probably other things too) increases dramatically when the parents are over 40. I guess they didn't encounter any of that, but still the whole process seems a little risky at their age. 

    Also, I don't know how they can keep up with young kids when they are well into their 60's!

    And....If I were them, it would make me really sad to know I might never be at their weddings or see their children grow up too.

    But, like Ames said, to each their own! 

     

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    It feels a little forced though. Women become unable to bear children at a certain age for good reason, I believe. Plus, I'm pretty sure the risk of a baby having Down's Syndrome (and probably other things too) increases dramatically when the parents are over 40. I guess they didn't encounter any of that, but still the whole process seems a little risky at their age. 

     

    I think this has more to do with the age of the eggs as opposed to the age of the womb. Since they used an egg donor, likely of a young woman, they probably had as much of a chance of down syndrome as a healthy 20something's baby would have.

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    image rach83:

    It feels a little forced though. Women become unable to bear children at a certain age for good reason, I believe. Plus, I'm pretty sure the risk of a baby having Down's Syndrome (and probably other things too) increases dramatically when the parents are over 40. I guess they didn't encounter any of that, but still the whole process seems a little risky at their age. 

     

    I think this has more to do with the age of the eggs as opposed to the age of the womb. Since they used an egg donor, likely of a young woman, they probably had as much of a chance of down syndrome as a healthy 20something's baby would have.

    You're right. That is true...

    I still think the father's age can be somewhat of a factor though...from what I've read/heard.  

     

  • image rach83:

    And....If I were them, it would make me really sad to know I might never be at their weddings or see their children grow up too.

    This is my main opposition- plus the emotional burden of ailing health for parents on teenagers/ people in their early twenties. 

    For me, part of the point of having kids would be to raise and nurture someone who I would (hopefully) get to see contribute to society in a meaningful way.  It just seems like you're resigning yourself to missing these things.

    The other issue is the closeness factor between siblings/ extended families- my uncle was 47 when he had his last child (wife was 45) and his son is only a year older than his grandson.  It kind of stinks to be that 5 yr old kid when you want someone to play with you around holidays or run around the neighborhood, etc. when the siblings you have are mid-20s and older.

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  • image amelianguy:
    I think it's fine. To each their own. As long as these parents are smart about the fact that they're not going to be around for as long as the typical parent, and they plan accordingly, I don't see an issue.

    That's how I feel... I mean, who am I to judge how another woman wants to live her life? 

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