Okay ladies, here's the story. Outside of my WONDERFUL MIL and FIL, my DH's family is making me go prematurely gray. Ive been with my DH for 6 years; we dated in high school, college and beyond. I've seen him through some very dark times. We've essentially grown up together and I've stood by his side as he has mine.
The problem? Well, his family really seems to not give a crap about either one of us. His sister did not have me in her wedding at all and even made a face about it when it was suggested by his mother. At the church, she included her other sister in law but, I assume its because we were "only" engaged at the time, made a point to say "This is my family" and exclude me from the family photo. When our wedding rolled round, a good 3/4th of his family didnt bother to send an RSVP card. Only 8 members of his family came to our wedding. I understand several of them couldnt come because we live several states away, but a showing of 8 is really sad. Even better, a fair number of them didnt bother to send a gift or even a card sending their best wishes. When the SIL had her baby shower, they had a full house and family posting on her Facebook wall about how happy they were to be a part of her special day. Gag me.
Luckily for me, I dont live near these people so I dont have to deal with them on a daily basis. My concern is twofold: 1) My husband seems really hurt by all of this and feels like a blacksheep, not to mention it hurts me a lot too! 2) I dont know how I'm going to deal with these people when we go visit my in-laws. I want to pop off at the mouth by sadly, I have manners. When they say "Oh sorry we missed the wedding", I'm going to fight the urge to say something smart. Ugh, I feel so classy for even thinking such ugly things. I know I've married into this but I'm starting to feel some major resentment and I really need to know how to let this go. Help?