We have been married for a little over 3 years and I am still getting the guilt trip from my Mother that I spend more time with the IL's. We used to live 2.5 hours away from my family, but they rarely visited. We now live 3.5 hours away from my family but only 2 hours away from my In-laws. This summer, we have done our best to make it to all the weddings and family events. We have only missed one wedding which was a college friend. My In-laws are very family oriented and make plans to get together frequently. My parents only expect us to drive to see them and never the other way around. Our summer has been very packed with Weddings and family events and we wanted to stay home for 2 weekends in a row and my Mom threw a fit. She said that there's no reason we can't go camping with them for Labor Day wknd since we have nothing going on. I finally had to raise my voice and tell her that we want a weekend at home (since we have only lived in our new, first home for 6 months). I felt guilty after hanging up the phone but I am worn out trying to please her. Will it ever end? When will my Mom understand that I'm an adult and have my own life now...but it doesn't mean that I've forgotten about her. I don't even want to know what it's going to be like when we have kids!