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MY mother is driving me BSC (turned into a long rant)

First she doesn't remember ANYTHING. We have the same convo a million times. My family has switched churches (major drama) well she wants Mark to come with us. Mark wasn't raised to go every time the doors are open like I was and he gets aggravated at my mother for 'pushing it on him.' I understand. Fine. So multiple times this week she's asked 1) if we are coming to church and 2) If we aren't then we are meeting Key (my grandma) for lunch. And Can we come to that. A) you've told me that a million times this week already and B) every time I've told you yes I understand.

And on a related note. I've told her the reason I haven't gotten up to visit this new church is because since they started going Merrick hasn't been sleeping on Saturday nights. Like at all. So by the time I get him to sleep at 7 a.m. I just want to sleep too and not get ready for church. She knows this. She continues to remind me every week that they'll be at church and I should come. Yes. Yes I know. And every week I tell you I'll try to be there (And I have been by myself a few times)

?AND this is the part that drives me the most insane. My mother watches Merrick a total of 11-ish hours a week. My MIL the same. My MOTHER acts like she's raising my child. She wants to tell me what he likes, how he acts for her and all kinds of other kinds of nonesense. Anytime I complain about anything she implies that I 'wouldn't know because he's with her most.' She seriously acts like I don't ever take care or see my child because she watches him in teh evenings while I"m at work. She makes me feel like crap and I've tried to explain that to her but just doesn't understand how she hurts my feelings.

?And NOW she's taking credit for getting him to sleep in his crib last night. WAS SHE AT MY HOUSE??? Did she stand by his crib until he feel asleep? NO AND NO. She takes credit because she let him CIO while I was in the shower the night before and then ended up rocking him until I got in there. Then she promptly went to bed while I endured bedtime. And then I did it ALL BY MYSELF last night thankyouverymuch. SKANK SKANK SKANK.?

?I'm sure this was rambling and didn't make sense. I just needed to get it out there and vent. I take care of my stinkin' kid. And you DON"T raise him even if you think otherwise!!!?

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Re: MY mother is driving me BSC (turned into a long rant)

  • Sorry girl :( I got close to the end and thought, no skank?! Then I saw it! Lol
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    Sorry girl :( I got close to the end and thought, no skank?! Then I saw it! Lol

    ?Of course it's there! I didn't want to disappoint! If she doesn't watch it I'm calling her one directly. But then she'll cry .... my mom's a total crier.?

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  • Seriously do we have the same mom? lol.

    My mom was raised Southern Baptist, very strict you have to go to church or you will go to Hell mentality. When she married my dad who was Lutheran, she loosened up a lot, but she still freaks out when we don't go to church every Sunday. It's actually one of the reasons we didn't join her church when we moved, even though my parents go to a church up the street from my house, the other reason is that DH was Methodist and wanted a contemporary service.  Even now though, they always come over after church for lunch, and on the days we obviously have not gone, she always asks why. Lets see, I have a toddler who still has rough nights, we are rarely in town all week and enjoy spending one morning a week at home as a family, right now Sam refuses to go to the nursery which just makes me not want to go because of the guilt and aggravation of it, oh and this week I'm sick! 

    I was raised in a Lutheran traditional church. I like church, I love God, but I know that I am a Christian who can love and serve God anywhere, and a church is just a building. On the Sunday's we don't go, we always do some sort of devotion at home. One with me and DH, and I read from a vegie tales devotional for Sam. She may not get it, but it's my job to make it available. I don't see it as a huge deal, and won't be "judged" by someone for what they think I should be doing. I do what I can to raise my family the way God wants me to, and God loves me anyway! 

    Ok, vent over about that... NEXT!

    My mom keeps Sam maybe 1-6 hours a month, and she still seems to think that she is helping to raise her. With my mom I have to tread lightly though, because honestly she has helped to raise all of her other grandkids, at some point or another. Hell my 12 and 13 year old nephews still go to her classroom every morning and afternoon after school, every single day so she can feed them breakfast and do their homework with them. It's insane! But in the 1-6 hours a month my mom watches Sam for a date night, a doctors appointment, or a lunch she thinks that she has taught her a million things, the latest ofcourse is to go to the potty. OMG! I love my mother and she really does mean well, but she even took credit for teaching Sam to sing the "O" in Old McDonald had a Farm (EIEI-O), even though I've been singing it to her in the car for hours at a time to keep her happy. But until Thursday she had only been singing the "EIEI" part, mom kept her for me to go to lunch with Lwatts, and I got back and ofcourse she had taught her the O, so that means she taught her the whole thing. Oh and she peed in the potty again. lol. 

    I just have to let it go, because I do know she means well, but it does get aggravating, and it really grates on DH nerves. I told him that if he could get his mom to stop whispering "mimi mimi mimi" in Sam's ear than I would talk to my mom about the other stuff. lol. 

    All of this is to tell you I understand, and do a little venting of my own. Again, I do appreciate my mother, it's just hard sometimes to tell them that you are doing a decent job and would appreciate it if they would just let you do your own thing. Hugs!

  • OMG we have the same mom!! I was raised Southern Baptist and Mark Pentecostal so he too wants a more upbeat service. 

    AND my mom takes credit for Merricks ability to clap even though he was watching Sesame Street while my friend and I cut up fruit. My mom wasn't even in the house! But because she claps for him when he's there ... she taught him to clap. 

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