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Guess What I did!

I adore my MIL, I really really do!!  But feel like she is just really holding on tight to her son, my DH, in terms of doing "motherly" stuff for him like making appointments, doing his laundry etc (yeah she tells him to bring over his work shirts if he wants...he doesn't; I take care of all housework in our house!).  (Scheduling eighteen thousand family events so we can hang out with them every second of every day...posted about that earlier this week). 

Well MIL made DH a dentist and Drs appt at the providers near their house (about 40 minutes away from our house).  I called today, canceled them, and made new appointments at providers right near our house.  I don't plan on telling MIL, but in the future when she tells DH she will be making him an appointment, DH will be saying "oh no Ma, my WIFE will take care of that."

felt very vindicated canceling the appointments that she made :)  DH and I are building our own lives and can make our own appointments. Thank you!

Re: Guess What I did!

  • Well, I personally question why your DH, a grown man, needs ANYONE to make his appointments for him.  Really - you had to do this for him?  I would be more impressed if he had set them up and could then say "oh no Ma, I will take care of that.".
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  • Um, why doesn't your husband make his own damn appointments? I would be mortified if my husband wasn't capable of making his own doctors appointments (or cleaning his own shirts for that matter).
  • image casmgn:
    Um, why doesn't your husband make his own damn appointments? I would be mortified if my husband wasn't capable of making his own doctors appointments (or cleaning his own shirts for that matter).

     

     

    THIS THIS THIS - and you DH needs to cut those apron strings if he has to use a chainsaw to do it. 

  • You have a husband problem.  He should be making his own appointments and he needs to tell his mother to back off.
  • And your husband is completely unable to dial a phone and make his own appointment because why exactly?
  • image EastCoastBride:
    Well, I personally question why your DH, a grown man, needs ANYONE to make his appointments for him.  Really - you had to do this for him?  I would be more impressed if he had set them up and could then say "oh no Ma, I will take care of that.".

    Ditto. The vibe I'm getting from your post is that you don't want MIL to mother your husband, you want to and that to me is creepy. Your husband is a grown adult who can take care of himself.

  • You're happy that your husband told his mom she doesn't need to be his servant because that's why he's got you?

    Tongue Tied 

  • Congratulations.  You are now the proud mother of a 25 year old son.

     

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  • No wonder he married you...he went from mommy to mommy. You should be so proud!


  • Is it awkward when he shouts out "mommy" when you guys do it?
  • I assume you have a nice gin & tonic waiting for him when he gets home from work too?
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  • this makes my head hurt.  Why the heck doesn't your DH take care of himself??  does he have some sort of condition or disability that hinders him from doing these things for himself?   or is he just lazy?   

    and apparently he cannot make his own appts.  IMO if my husband couldn't pick up the phone to make an appt I'd be fine with him mom doing it as I am not my DH's MOM - I am his wife and his partner and it'd be a few less things for me to do if his mom did it for him.  why are you so insecure??

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  • WTF did you marry a child that can't make a phone call himself? And WTF are you actually proud of that fact?
  • Yeah, ummmm....My H makes all of his own appointments. 
  • image wifey011:

     in the future when she tells DH she will be making him an appointment, DH will be saying "oh no Ma, my WIFE will take care of that."

    I literally LOLed at this. He would sound like a petulant two year old. 

     

    Your H needs to put his big boy pants on and make his own appointments. And you need to stop competing with his mother as to who can take better care of the manchild.

  • Wait, what?  First of all, this is between your DH and his Mom.  She will continue to be overbearing and meddle until he makes her stop.  Second of all, he is a grown man, he can make his own doctor's appointments.

    There is no reason this needs to be a jealous little war between you and MIL, act like adults.

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  • image casmgn:
    Um, why doesn't your husband make his own damn appointments? I would be mortified if my husband wasn't capable of making his own doctors appointments (or cleaning his own shirts for that matter).

     

    This.

  • I am so embarrassed for you.
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  • image drewiekc:
    I assume you have a nice gin & tonic waiting for him when he gets home from work too?

    Man, I need to get a spouse that does that. 

     

    OP- Did you H encourage his mother to do this? 

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  • image wifey011:

    I  I take care of all housework in our house!

     no Ma, my WIFE will take care of that."

     

    Also, please consider that with a mindset like this you may very well be just like your MIL one day. 

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  • This post makes my anus pucker.
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  • image ReturnOfKuus:
    This post makes my anus pucker.

    I needed a good laugh this afternoon Kuus!

  • Wow you ladies are just so supportive and kind!  Thanks for all of the negativity--really what I was looking for here.

     

  • image wifey011:

    Wow you ladies are just so supportive and kind!  Thanks for all of the negativity--really what I was looking for here.

     

    Oh, I'm sorry. Perhaps this is better - "Oh my gosh! You are so lucky to be married to a man who is so immature that he can't even make his own appointments! However did you get so lucky??"
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