Hi everyone, I hope you might be able to offer some advice. Yesterday at Easter dinner, my future MIL told us that my fiance's sister suggested that we all take a family vacation together at Christmas this year instead of celebrating at home. This plan is being suggested as a way for my future IL's to save money by not buying presents. However, we believe that part of the reason that my future SIL suggested this plan is because she has recently changed religions and can no longer celebrate Christmas. By going on this family trip, we will be missing all of the usual Christmas celebrations we share with my fiance's extended family.
I care about my future ILs and I want to be supportive, but this plan makes both my fiance and me uncomfortable. We explained that we didn't feel right not sharing the holidays with the extended family. Also, we don't believe that a family vacation would allow anyone to save money, as it would most likely be more expensive than buying presents (we suggested simply having a family get together with no gifts, and no one seemed amenable to that solution). Finally, given that we usually travel out of state to my parent's house to celebrate Christmas with them a few days before the holiday, I'm concerned that this vacation could potentially make that trip either hectic or impossible. Also, this is all happening a couple of months after we finish paying for our own wedding, so our finances will be tight.
I've thought of suggesting that we celebrate Christmas at home, but save up as a family to take a vacation at a later time. I know this won't solve the my future SIL's problem of not being able to celebrate Christmas, but I also feel like it's not fair to force us to give up our own Christmas celebration. Does my proposal seem like a fair compromise? Or does anyone else have any better ideas?