Just hoping for some thoughts. My family just visited this weekend, and things didn't go well, as usual. Whenver brother is around, Mom gives him 100% attention, and he takes all of it. This results in DH and I feeling as though we are simply providing a nice place for them to crash, and that's about it. No genuine appreciation for our home, our lifestyle, or the effort we've made to make them comfortable and well-fed. In general, they lack graciousness and consideration for others. I want more respect. I've expressed my feelings several times to both with great patience to no avail, as they simply don't see my point of view and therefore can't imagine it being valid. Talking hasn't helped. This happens at all gatherings where my brother is present---I truly dread having him around because of my Mom's treatment of him. I'm not jealous, just disgusted by being ignored and disrespected. I don't enjoy him either because he doesn't really talk to me, nor does his wife, though they both claim to want a close, happy family.
Anyone have any suggestions for making my point more clear that I am a member of the family, too? Avoidance is an option, though not one of my favorites. The only other plan is to develop the patience and limitless love of Christ Jesus, which seems really out of reach at this point!! They really get to me!