I know I have seen recs on here before for a dog trainer in the home, but of course can't find 'em when I need 'em! I didn't even want to put this out here but I am desperate now and need help. Ugh, we haven't even told our family yet what has happened.
Some background first...Ever since we started preparing for DD to be born, our first baby (our furbaby) has been awful. Baxter is a 5 year old shih tzu male who is incredibly devoted to me, even though DH is his primary caretaker since he always takes him out, feeds him, etc. Baxter is also very stubborn and I truly believe he thinks that the order in the house goes me, him, DH, then DD....which is completely wrong. Before DD was even born, he would pee on anything we set up for DD, pack n play, bouncer, etc. He still goes in the house from time to time, despite the fact that he has always had someone home with him and given lots of walks since last March since I was on maternity leave, then my Mom stayed with us for the summer and finally, DH was laid off and is still unemployed now. In the last several months, Baxter has gotten increasingly more difficult to deal with. It's true, I haven't been able to devote as much time to him as I would like. I am working two jobs to keep the money coming in and a new baby at home certainly keeps us busy. Baxter has started growling and snarling at DH whenever DH comes near me or wants to pick Baxter up and Baxter is near me. He won't listen to DH's commands anymore, despite treats or incentives. He has now bit DH several times when DH has picked him up. Most recently, DH was just sitting on the ground and Baxter growled at him and then jumped on him and bit him, completely unprovoked.
Our daughter loves Baxter very much. She squeels when she sees him and does the baby sign for dog we have whenever we say dog or she wants to see him. It's also true that at one point, DD did pull or love on Baxter too much and we had to put a stop to it by keeping them away from each other, just within eye sight. We have worked very hard with DD on nice touch and she will pet him nicely and hug him now. She is twice his size now (He is about 11 lbs). We want them to have a good relationship and for her not to fear animals.
Fast forward to last night. I was stuck at work late and called DH driving home and he picked up in a panic voice. He said that Baxter had gone after Amelia and bit her face in two places and she was bleeding heavily and crying/howling. Apparently DD was on the floor and hugged Baxter, also on the floor. Baxter did not growl or anything, whipped around and bit her. I told him to take her to patient first since we live very close to it and the pedi office was closed. I met them there and completely lost it when I saw her, as in the nurse had to escort me out of the room as I was hysterical and clearly upsetting DD even more. So then I feel like a crappy mother and cry even more. Ugh. The doctor then sent us to GBMC ER to get assessed since it was an animal bite. Luckily, DD and Baxter all are caught up on their shots. We proceed to spend the next several hours in the ER and luckily, they decided not to do stitches since the bites did not go through the inside of DD's mouth. We have her on antibiotics for risk of infection and will be cleaning the wounds three times a day with soap and water and bacitracin and then aloe.
So here we are now. I don't want to wait for something else to happen and I am not asking to get rid of Baxter. DD appears to be fine now with Baxter and is not scared of him, thank goodness. I don't want to keep her away from him. I want to help foster her love of animals and his acceptance of the new addition in our house. Does anyone have a rec for someone to come into our home to work with us? We live in Perry Hall and cost is not a problem...we will make it work. TIA!